Many times when many people want to attract their ideal partner, they fairly often build a list of things to do -- action steps, if you will -- that will help them meet "the one." They add new activities into their routine, join dating services, write singles ads. They might beginning an exercise program or buy new clothes in an effort to look better. They let their friends understand theyre "in the market."

Seldom do people think of giving up something as a distingguished way to attract Mr. or Ms. Right. Well, this is not entirely true. People might give up such things as smoking or overeating. But the kind of "giving-up" I am referring to is about your beliefs, attitudes and feelings. Giving up something in one of these three areas is more likely to lead you to your Mr. or Ms. Right.

Here is a list of five things you should ponder giving up if you want to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right:

1. Give up anger at the opposite sex.
You may tell when all the people have a chip on their shoulders. And yet those who are angry and disappointed with the opposite sex think their feelings are undetectable. If you might truly give up the anger, you have a much better chance of attracting the partner you want.

2. Give up on your past relationships.
Most of us can tell when someone is unavailable or ambivalent about dating because of an unfinished relationship. If you hope that one of your past partners will come back, others will be able to tell. Your ideal partner will surely want a completely available partner. Youll be hard pressed to attract him or her until you are completely available.

3. Give up trying to be perfect in order to attract a mate.
As long as you think your body, your pocketbook or your emotional well-being have to be in perfect shape in order to be loved, you will remain alone. A state of perfection may seldom be achieved - we are as human beings are inherently imperfect. You are peachy just as you are for some lucky person out there.

4. Give up protecting yourself from hurt.
Lots of singles devise all sorts of tests to build sure potential partners wont hurt them the way they we are hurt in the past. This never works because all the people understand when they are being
tested and will either fake it or fail on purpose. Instead, become the type of person who is seldom mistreated and who can set strong, clear boundaries.

5. Give up looking for a relationship.
Looking for a relationship is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Although singles ads and dating services have some success, and are grand for acquiring lots of dating experiences,
most people still meet their life partner by chance. Your best bet for finding your Mr. or Ms. Right is to have a wonderful life now.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you understand how to attract your ideal mate? Do you understand how to contruct a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries may teach you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where youll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"

Having coined the phrase "relationship coach," Master Certified Coach Rinatta Paries works with singles to help them attract their ideal relationship, and helps couples create more love and fulfillment in their existing relationships. Visit her internet site at www.WhatItTakes.com or electronic mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com